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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Do You Ask These and/or Similar Questions?
1. ‘What is the problem?’
2. ‘Why did I fail?’
3. ‘Why are my relationships not working?’
4. ‘Why am I not able to earn as much as I should?’
5. ‘In which subjects is my child weak?’
6. ‘Why am I not getting what I deserve?’
7. ‘Why am I sick so often?’
8. ‘Why are people so insensitive?’
9. ‘Why are people so unhelpful?’
10. ‘Why did that person insult me?’
Try asking the above questions of yourself; see the kind of answers you get, and also observe the kind of mental themes you are creating for yourself. The themes which may emerge are:
‘I am unlucky.’
‘Life is difficult.’
‘Life is uncertain.’
‘People can’t be trusted.’
‘I can never succeed.’
‘It is not in my destiny.’
‘People are selfish.’
Instead, Prefer to Ask These Questions:
1. ‘What keeps me happy and smiling?’
2. ‘What are the things happening in my life which I value?’
3. ‘What do I value in my relationships?’
4. ‘What is the one thing critical to building happy, healthy and stable relationships?’
5. ‘What changes have I made that have positively impacted my life?’
6. ‘What has inspired me lately?’
7. ‘What does career growth mean to me?’
8. ‘How can I enhance my happiness and positivity today?’
Use ‘I Am’ Statements
1. ‘I am alive at this moment and thank God for that.’
2. ‘I am safe at this moment.’
3. ‘I am grateful for what I have today.’
4. ‘I am worthy and deserving of love.’
5. ‘I am focused only on what I can control now.’
6. ‘I am open and present to this experience.’
In case your habitual ‘I’ statements are negative and disempowering in nature—
‘I am stuck’, ‘I am not enough’, ‘I am worthless’—
replace them with empowering ‘I am’ phrases.
‘I deserve happiness and I am capable of creating my own happy moments.’
‘I love and accept myself as I am.’
‘I have the capability to deal with challenges.’
‘I am in an adventurous moment, I will make it a memorable moment.’
‘I have inner resources and I am learning to use them appropriately.’
Changing ingrained mental habits takes practice.
Regularly practising the above for 21 days will bring a sustainable change.
Book: Psychology of Self-Talk by Prof. Manju Agrawal
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Influence ≠ People Pleasing
If you’re bending over backwards just to convince people, you are not influencing.
You are auditioning.
Because being sweet is easy.
Being taken seriously requires a lot of work.
You won’t be remembered for always nodding along.
You’ll be remembered for speaking up when it mattered.
For asking the question no one else had the guts to.
Rudeness ≠ Boundaries
When you’ve spent your life shrinking yourself,
the first time you speak up might come out like an explosion.
“I’m done!”
“Stop it!”
“Not happening!”
You don’t need to attack anybody to protect your space.
You don’t need to offend anybody to be clear.
Boundaries don’t have to burn the house down.
They can close the door—gently, firmly, kindly.
Instead of saying: “I’m not doing that.”
Try: “That doesn’t work for me right now,”
or “That’s not something I can take on.”
Book: Winning People Without Losing Yourself
Ankur Warikoo
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Understanding Fear’s Many Faces in Trading
Fear is the most potent emotion traders face, and it’s responsible for more trading mistakes than all other emotions combined. The irony is that fear, which evolved to protect us from danger, often becomes our biggest enemy in the market. Fear isn’t something you need to eliminate from your trading. Instead, you need to understand, work with, and channel it into better decision-making.
Fear in trading isn’t just one emotion—it’s a complex web of anxieties that can paralyze even the most experienced traders. Each type of fear affects your trading differently, and recognizing which one you’re dealing with is the first step toward managing it effectively.
The most obvious type is the fear of losing money. This hits hardest when you’re watching a profitable trade turn against you or sitting on a losing position that keeps getting worse.
Then there’s the fear of missing out, commonly known as FOMO. This fear drives you to chase moves you’ve already missed, often entering positions at the worst possible moments.
The third primary type is the fear of being wrong. This one is particularly insidious because it simultaneously attacks your ego and confidence. It keeps you on the sidelines, watching opportunity after opportunity pass you by.
The fourth primary type is the fear of leaving money on the table—the anxiety traders feel about exiting profitable positions too early and missing out on additional gains. This fear can be just as destructive as losing money because it causes traders to hold winning positions longer than their strategy dictates.
Each of these fears feels different in your body and mind, but they all share one common trait: they push you to make emotional decisions instead of logical ones. The key is learning to recognize which fear you’re experiencing so you can respond appropriately.
The Biology Behind Your Trading Fear
When your brain perceives a threat—like watching your position move against you—it triggers an ancient survival mechanism called the fight-or-flight response. Within seconds, your brain floods your system with stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. Your heart rate spikes. Your breathing becomes shallow and rapid. Your rational, analytical brain—the prefrontal cortex—can’t function properly.
Instead of thinking clearly, weighing options, and making calculated decisions, your brain defaults to quick, emotional responses designed to get you out of danger as fast as possible.
Book: A Trader’s Guide to Mastering Your Emotions by Steve Burns & Holly Burns
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Your Best and Worst Choices Are Separated by Noise
Your best choice and your worst choice are rarely separated by values and skills, and almost entirely by the crowd noise in your brain over those choices.
So, Chasing 10Hz is really the goal, not just to be present but especially for higher orders of decision-making and focus.
Book: Life Explained: Chasing 10Hz by Dr. Izzy Justice
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Your Self-Image Determines Your Life
All your actions, feelings, behaviors — even your abilities — are always consistent with your self-image. In short, you will “act like” the sort of person you conceive yourself to be. Not only this, but you literally cannot act otherwise, in spite of all your conscious efforts or willpower.
The man who conceives himself to be a “failure-type person” will find some way to fail, in spite of all his good intentions or his willpower, even if opportunity is literally dumped in his lap. The person who conceives himself to be a victim of injustice, one “who was meant to suffer,” will invariably find circumstances to verify his opinions.
The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change the personality and the behavior.
But more than this: the self-image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment. It defines what you can and cannot do. Expand the self-image and you expand the “area of the possible.” The development of an adequate, realistic self-image will seem to imbue the individual with new capabilities, new talents, and literally turn failure into success.
Book: Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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Choice Is Creation
Choice is creation.
To choose is to create.
Through my choices I create my reality.
At every moment in my life I have a choice.
Moments add up to a lifetime; choices add up to a life.
What kind of life do I want for myself?
What choices will create this kind of life?
Book: Choose the Life You Want by Tal Ben-Shahar
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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You Have Time
If your time had passed, you would have passed away too. The fact that you are here, your time to make IT happen is still here too. Whoever you believe is sitting up in heaven won’t call you back until you DO the work that you feel inspired to do.
You have time. The only time you lose is when you feel scared of running out of it instead of using it to go after what ignites your soul.
Book: The Life Beyond Fear by Ella Heart
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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The Difference Between Thoughts and Thinking
Thoughts are the energetic, mental raw materials from which we use to create everything in the world. We can’t experience anything without thought. It’s important to know that thoughts are nouns and aren’t something that we do, but something we have. A thought takes no effort or force on our end, and it is something that just happens. We also cannot control what thoughts pop into our minds. The source of thoughts comes from something that is beyond our minds—the Universe, if you will.
Thinking, on the other hand, is the act of thinking about our thoughts. This takes a significant amount of energy, effort, and willpower (which is a finite resource). Thinking is actively engaging with the thoughts in your mind. You don’t have to engage with each thought in your mind, but when you do, that is thinking.
Thinking is the root cause of all our psychological suffering.
Now you might be wondering, where do positive thoughts fit into the picture? Positive thoughts, or thoughts that feel good, are not a result of thinking. They are, instead, generated by our natural state of peace, love, and joy. They are a byproduct of a state of being, not a state of thinking. We will go into depth about this in the next chapter.
Book: Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
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2026年3月13日 03:33
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The smartest people I know:
1. Obsessively read books.
2. Pursue new mental models.
3. Enjoy intelligent discourse.
4. Quickly admit when they’re wrong.
5. Are comfortable changing their opinion.
6. Surround themselves with intelligence.
7. Seek to understand every perspective on a topic.
Book: How to Live an Extraordinary Life by Anthony Pompliano
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2026年3月10日 09:59
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The root cause of our suffering is our own thinking.
Our perception of reality is very real. We will feel what we think, and our feelings are real — that is completely undeniable. However, our thinking can look like an inevitable, unchangeable reality until we begin to see how our reality is created.
If we know that we can only ever feel what we are thinking, then we know that we can change our feelings by changing our thinking. In this way, we can change our experience of life by knowing that it comes from our own thinking.
Book: Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
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2026年3月10日 09:59
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Why Alcohol Is More Dangerous Than Any Illegal Drug
People fear cocaine, heroin, and drugs.
But not alcohol.
And yet…
Alcohol kills 3 million people every year (WHO data)
More than 200 diseases are caused or worsened by alcohol
Alcohol is the leading cause of liver failure and cancer
Alcohol destroys more families than any drug
Even worse:
Alcohol is the only drug that people pressure you to take.
Nobody will ever say:
“Come on, have some heroin. Be a sport.”
Book: Alcohol Is Poison: How to Stay Away by M. K. Devidasan
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2026年3月10日 09:59
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Your late night scrolling could literally be hurting your heart.
Inadequate sleep—even moderate reductions for just one week—disrupts blood sugar levels so profoundly that you would be classified as pre-diabetic. Short sleeping increases the likelihood of your coronary arteries becoming blocked and brittle, setting you on a path toward cardiovascular disease, stroke, and congestive heart failure.
Fitting Charlotte Brontë’s prophetic wisdom that “a ruffled mind makes a restless pillow,” sleep disruption further contributes to all major psychiatric conditions, including depression, anxiety, and suicidality.
Book: Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker
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2026年2月26日 11:20
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Being present is a great thing, but like many things in life, don’t overdo it.
That’s why I like to live like I’m immortal. Because when you live forever . . .
You have all the time in the world to build something.
You can make mistakes and learn from them.
There’s no pressure to make things happen fast.
You treat people with respect because other people will also be around forever.
This small tweak in my mindset has helped me to take a different view on life. I’m not afraid to look 10 or 20 years ahead. That helps me to make better decisions TODAY. For example, I’d rather save my money or invest it instead of spending it because I know that “future Darius” will benefit from that.
Book: Do It Today by Darius Foroux
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2026年2月22日 00:51
Merry Christmas!🎄❄️
From the bottom of our hearts, we wish each of you a warm, joyful holiday filled with love, peace, and quiet moments to enjoy a good book. Thank you for being here, for your kindness, your support, and for sharing this love of reading with us.
We’re truly grateful for this community and for every one of you. Wishing you a beautiful Christmas and many wonderful stories ahead🫶✨
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2026年2月22日 00:51
Our beliefs shape how we experience the world.
Most of the time, we don’t consciously notice the thoughts that pass through our minds or realise the extent to which they shape our reality. The more deeply embedded these beliefs become, the harder they feel to challenge. You may begin to believe that “this is just who I am,” rather than recognising these beliefs as learned patterns — and, more importantly, patterns that can be unlearned.
Our beliefs determine how we perceive situations, how we interpret events, and ultimately how we define ourselves. They become self-fulfilling prophecies, for better or for worse.
Book: Confidence: 8 Steps to Knowing Your Worth by Roxie Nafousi
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2026年2月19日 07:25
Negotiation is a game of imperfect information.
In any negotiation, neither side can see the whole picture. You know the cards you hold and the terms you are willing to accept. At the same time, you have no clear view of your opponent’s cards or the concessions they may be prepared to make.
This uncertainty makes negotiation similar to poker, a game in which part of the information is always hidden. A negotiator, like a poker player, tries to deduce the opponent’s hand by interpreting their moves rather than relying on complete knowledge.
As with any game of imperfect information, success depends heavily on position at the table.
Book: Negotiate It Right by Kamal Gupta
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2026年2月17日 17:52
Why Mental Stillness Matters?
The mind without pauses is like a cluttered desk — no space to work, no room to breathe.
Stillness doesn’t throw everything away. It clears a little space so you can see what actually matters.
With even a little mental clarity, the impossible feels manageable.
The loud becomes softer.
The messy feels organised.
And sometimes, the question that haunted you finds its answer in the quiet.
Stillness is not wasting time — it is reclaiming it.
Book: The Lost Art of Doing Nothing: Rediscovering the Joy of Stillness by Sruthi S Kumar
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2026年2月17日 17:52
The Highest Form of Wealth
The highest form of wealth is the ability to wake up every morning and say, “I can do whatever I want today.”
People want to become wealthier to make them happier. Happiness is a complicated subject because everyone’s different. But if there’s a common denominator in happiness—a universal fuel of joy—it’s that people want to control their lives.
The ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want, is priceless. It is the highest dividend money pays.
Book: The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
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2026年2月12日 04:37
How to start a conversation with strangers?
Ask for advice
People love giving advice. So, start your small talk with a request for advice: ‘I want to buy a smartphone [or a cocktail or a book], but I can’t decide which one.’ Most people will happily open up. Then thank them for the tip and the other person will feel like a fireman who has successfully extinguished a fire. The psychology behind this: if you ask for advice, you create intimacy; intimacy makes rejection difficult. Therefore, if you want to influence someone, it is a good idea to ask that person for advice first.
Ask a second question
We often ask something and then wait for the other person to ask something back. This is not a conversation. Instead, use the old reporter trick and ask a second question. If you just asked ‘Where did you grow up?’, then a good follow-up question might be: ‘How has that place shaped you?’
Book: The Communication Book: 44 Ideas for Better Conversations Every Day by Mikael Krogerus & Roman Tschäppeler
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2026年2月10日 03:14
Points to Remember
1. A lack of clarity about who you are—and what you should do—can hurt. If it lingers long enough, it leads to a chaotic mind.
2. When your heart knows what you should do but your mind isn’t willing to accept the consequences, a void begins to form inside you. You long for that void to be filled.
3. We lack clarity in our careers, relationships, and lives because we don’t know who we really are, what we want, what our core values are, and what purpose our souls should serve.
4. This inner turmoil can spill into our everyday lives. The first step is to acknowledge it, then understand and accept who we are.
5. It can be difficult to come to terms with who we are deep down and what we want. Society has conditioned us to function according to its expectations. We have forgotten our real selves.
Book: 7 Rules for a Calm Mind in a Chaotic World by Abhijeet Mukherjee
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2026年2月10日 03:14
Physical activity is the closest thing to a miracle drug.
It reduces cancer, depression, insomnia, dementia, diabetes, hypertension, arthritis, and many other disabling conditions — and increases healthy longevity. If you have the personality, resources, and inclination for extensive physical activity, that’s great — you’ll be much more likely to avoid disability and live independently into old age.
I can only stick with activities I enjoy. I play squash — not well but enthusiastically; for the hour I’m on a squash court, that’s all I think about, and when I finish, drenched in sweat, endorphins and other beneficial neurochemicals coursing through my body, I can’t wait to play again. So, busy as my schedule is, I fit squash in.
Try to find vigorous activities you love doing. But if that’s not for you, you can still get a large dose of the miracle drug if you build physical activity into your daily routines — taking stairs instead of the elevator, walking farther to work or stores, bicycling whenever possible. A brisk walk, ideally outdoors, is the most accessible. Four brisk walks every week for at least thirty minutes, ideally in a refreshing natural space, can do wonders.
Book: The Formula for Better Health by Tom Frieden
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2026年2月8日 11:23
The Paradox – How Discipline Leads to Greater Freedom in Life
Discipline and freedom are often seen as conflicting ideas. Many people think discipline means restricting yourself, following rigid rules, and sacrificing enjoyment. But the truth is, discipline is the key to achieving genuine freedom in life.
When you’re disciplined with your time, you create a structure that ensures you complete your work efficiently. This leaves you with free time to pursue hobbies, spend with loved ones, or relax without guilt. On the other hand, if you lack discipline and waste time procrastinating, you’re left scrambling to meet deadlines, often sacrificing your personal time.
Freedom isn’t about doing whatever you want whenever you want; it’s about having the ability to make meaningful choices. Discipline gives you that ability. For instance, if you’re disciplined with your finances—saving consistently and avoiding unnecessary spending—you have the freedom to invest in opportunities, take vacations, or handle emergencies without stress. Conversely, a lack of financial discipline often leads to debt and dependency.
Book: Those Who Live Without Discipline Die Without Honor by Modern Arjuna
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2026年2月8日 11:23
We are not always kind to time.
In fact, it is very easy to kill time. We honestly believe we’re the ones causing the harm, but as playwright Dion Boucicault pointed out: “Men talk of killing time, while time quietly kills them.” It has been rephrased in many ways since, but the sentiment is the same. I think about it all the time. We can master so much — we feel we are in control of our time — but in this case it is to no avail.
Here are the words of the poet Henry Austin Dobson:
Time goes, you say? Ah, no.
Alas, time stays, we go.
Book: In Love With Death by Satish Modi
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2026年2月8日 11:23
Be an Entrepreneur
The future is not something we enter. The future is something we create.
— Leonard I. Sweet, author and theologian
Entrepreneurship is one of the most powerful expressions of the Human Edge. At its core, it’s about imagination, initiative and impact. It’s the ability to see possibilities where others see problems, to take risks and shape new realities. As we step into the AI age, entrepreneurship is no longer just for startup founders or business elites—it is a mindset and skill set that every individual needs.
The AI age is not just disrupting jobs; it is reshaping the very idea of what a career looks like. Many traditional roles are disappearing, but in their place lies the rise of something exciting—the Age of Entrepreneurs.
Book: Human Edge in the AI Age by Nitin Seth
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2026年2月8日 11:23
Never win an argument.
Whether it’s an argument, a heated discussion, or slight friction in conversation, your goal isn’t to “win.” It’s to unravel. Start at the loose ends until you understand the heart of the matter. There you’ll find the knot.
This is a book of knots. The hard stuff in social relationships that, admit it, you’d rather skip over. Untying crossed wires takes time, takes emotion, takes effort. That’s what conflict in communication represents: a struggle.
An argument is a window into another person’s struggle. In every difficult conversation, there’s a moment when someone—whether it’s you or the other person—hits a snag. Maybe you don’t understand what they’re trying to say. Maybe you’re in a bad mood. Maybe you disagree. It’s not the clash of opinions; it’s the clash of worlds, of the very way you see things.
Book: The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher
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2026年2月8日 11:23
How to Stay Focused When You Get Bored Working on Your Goals
“What’s the difference between the best athletes and everyone else?” I asked. “What do the really successful people do that most don’t?”
He mentioned the factors you might expect: genetics, luck, talent.
But then he said something I wasn’t expecting:
“At some point, it comes down to who can handle the boredom of training every day, doing the same lifts over and over and over.”
His answer surprised me because it’s a different way of thinking about work ethic.
People talk about getting “amped up” to work on their goals.
Whether it’s business or sports or art, you hear people say things like,
“It all comes down to passion.”
Or, “You have to really want it.”
As a result, many of us get depressed when we lose focus or motivation because we think that successful people have some bottomless reserve of passion.
But this coach said that really successful people feel the same lack of motivation as everyone else.
The difference is that they still find a way to show up despite the feelings of boredom.
Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear
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2026年2月6日 21:30
Not good, nor bad.
“There is no evil in things changing, just as there is no good in persisting in a new state.”
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.42
When people say change is good, they’re usually trying to reassure someone (or themselves). Because instinctively we view change as bad — or at least we’re suspicious of it.
The Stoics want you to do away with those labels altogether. Change isn’t good. The status quo isn’t bad. They just are.
Remember, events are objective. It’s only our opinion that says something is good or bad (and thus worth fighting against or fighting for). A better attitude? To decide to make the most of everything. But to do that you must first cease fighting.
Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman
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2026年2月5日 00:47
A deeper sense of time.
Perhaps you are familiar with an arresting, provocative image known as Your Life in Weeks. The visualization, popularized by blogger Tim Urban in 2014, is still in wide circulation a decade later. Here it is, in case you missed it:
How small and finite life feels when you see it represented like this, as a series of identical squares that can easily fit on one page.
It’s a visual reminder that our time is limited — and incredibly precious.
Book: Tiny Experiments by Anne-Laure Le Cunff
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2026年2月2日 16:40
You Are What You Think
Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. This is but saying that nothing can come from corn but corn, nothing from nettles but nettles. Men understand this law in the natural world and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world (though its operation there is just as simple and undeviating), and they, therefore, do not co-operate with it.
Book: As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
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